Abandonment wounds are perhaps the deepest and most unseen influences that lie within us. They are unseen because it is more difficult to notice what wasn't there versus what was in our early lives. Abandonment wounds penetrate into virtually all areas of our realities spanning everywhere from our relationships with others to our relationship with ourselves.
Read MoreWhat is often misunderstood about this transit, is that it is a RECOURSE. Saturn will come into our lives and put us back on the path of our purpose, sometimes mercilessly. If we are living very out of line with this, the transit will be harder. If we resist, the transit will be harder. So what can we do during this time of potent and painful transformation?
Read MoreJust as a fish doesn’t know it’s in water, often times we ourselves don’t know we inhabit dysfunctional living environments, especially when we are born into them. Up until I was 26 years old, this was the case with me.
Read MoreShadow work is the act of sitting with your self in your entirety, in the painful feelings we otherwise run from and numb out in acts of avoidance, with addictions like unhealthy relationships, food, shopping, alcohol, social media.
Read MoreCheck, check, aaaaand check. I've definitely used all of these things to avoid feeling, to avoid intimacy with myself, in acts of self-abandonment. Understanding that addiction can take many forms with the common thread being an avoidance of experiencing difficult emotions, using these things as essential painkillers, is one of the first steps you can take to breaking cycles of self-betrayal. Which one of these is your most-used vice?
Read MoreWhat can you do to start feeling better TODAY? I’m often asked about the tools I’ve found along my path that help to improve my mental health and keep it in a positive state. While CBD was absolutely the first thing that really helped to heal my body and gave me the space to heal my mind, diet has actually proven to be the most consistently solid pillar for me. I really hated switching my dependency from medication to CBD, even though I felt it was the better option, and wanted to be free from all of it- a diet geared towards my mental health totally gave me that freedom.
Read MoreI've been giving a lot of thought to honesty lately. I learned about a concept (and book) called "radical honesty" in a Duncan Trussell podcast with Chris Ryan a year or two back and realized it was exactly what I had been practicing. Radical, unwavering, sometimes incredibly painful honesty with myself and others.
Read MoreI often talk about toxicity in our lives in the context of people, environments, etc. But what if the toxicity is coming from you? What if you are the toxic source in your own life? Before I started really doing my work, I was a horribly toxic person, both in my own life and in the lives of women that considered me a friend. It ended up costing me old friendships, integrity, karma, and regret I still wrestle with to this day.
Read MoreWhat does it mean to be a part of the “mental health community”? My initial impetus for going public with my story was to help other women and men suffering in the way I have, people searching for ways to help themselves, who want, as I did, to feel better. What I have found since tapping into the “mental health community” is something far graver than what I had anticipated.
Read MoreI learned about the concept of resistance in Steven Pressfield's The War of Art (which I'll never be able to recommend enough to anyone) and had since been on a quest to understand what it actually is, where it grows from within me, what exactly the force is that prevents me from creating what I dream about most.
Read MoreIt wasn’t until I realized I had been doing so much work on myself- therapy once a week, restrictive diet for mental health, CBD when needed, constant self-analysis- yet was still under-earning, attracting unavailable partners, and struggling with underlying anxiety. It felt like I was experiencing major blocks in my life, blocks I could see through patterns but couldn’t exactly touch or fix, despite my best efforts. Then I learned about hypnotherapy.
Read MoreA few months before my 27th birthday, I realized I had been doing the same thing for so long, back and forth from my psychiatrists office, from the pharmacy, from cognitive/behavioral therapy, and my baseline was still utterly miserable- and getting worse.
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