On the Power of Being Wrong.

We can live our whole lives wrong. Make decisions that are wrong. Take actions that are wrong. Start building in the wrong area or the wrong structure in the right area. It is often painful, difficult to admit fault to ourselves so we don’t do it. We don’t look, we don’t ask if what we are doing, thinking is right or if its wrong so we just keep going on the assumption that we are right because it is easier, it is less painful, the suffering is less. Even if that assumption is causing greater suffering in our lives that we are aware or unaware of. The prospect of shattering the paradigm that built it is so uncomfortable so we don’t do it.

Humility is one of the most important things we can practice in our lives. Looking at ourselves critically. Analyzing and challenging our belief structures. How we’re operating. The way we’re living. Because without humility, without doing this work, we are only hurting ourselves. We are only living with fallible ideas. And it just doesn’t work.

We have to stand in truth, be honest, be fearless, about the possibility- not only the possibility but the PROBABILITY- that we are wrong. That we don’t have all the answers, that we don’t know best because we often don’t have all the information available. We have to be open to pivoting, to changing, to admitting fault. Its okay. We are not supposed to know everything. We are not supposed to have all the answers. And I would even argue that the more open we are to being wrong, the more on track we become, the stronger we become, the more whole we become. Because if we are able to disprove an idea, it gets us that much closer to the truth, to knowing what is not the truth and thus by process of elimination at the very least, we can find truth. And we can trust in a higher power to guide us there, we can trust in God.

Especially today, where ideology is so rampant and everyone is arguing for their perspective and feelings and so easily offended and triggered. It’s dangerous because instead of looking at WHY we are triggered, WHY we’re  having these reactions, experiencing these issues in our lives, we just have them and the reaction itself is validated. Instead of the reaction raising a flag for maybe there is something wrong, unhealed, not at peace. “Be grateful for your triggers, they point to where you are not free.” If you are not free somewhere, it means that you have not arrived at truth because only in truth are we free.

Stay open. Stay humble. It is not only okay to be wrong, it is good. It means that you are strong enough to admit fault. That you choose to live in truth versus a cognitive dissonance. That you are steadfast on a path of wholeness and realness and truth. And question everything, even your most base belief structures. Stay in your power. Stay in truth. 

This piece was originally featured in a January 23, 2019 post on Instagram at @themorganmay